In Episode #119 Ari interviews blogger, author and relationship coach Jordan Gray of Jordan Gray Consulting. During this podcast, Jordan discusses the nuances of his profession, the oft overlooked intricacies of life in the bedroom and the important distinction between male ejaculation and male orgasm. Jordan and Ari close the discussion by sharing some of their secrets for effective content production.
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Time Stamped Show Notes:
22:46 – Introduction of Jordan Gray 23:15 – How Jordan became a relationship coach 24:15 – Most of Jordan’s clients are single, male entrepreneurs 24:25 – These men tend to be mission and passion driven; work is their #1 priority and women take the backseat 25:00 – Surprisingly, these men demonstrate a high-degree of sexual dysfunction in Jordan’s experience 25:40 – Is there a best-practice for dealing with these men? 26:45 – Jordan is an advocate of redirecting energy, specifically semen retention and harnessing sexual energy for greater sexual productivity 27:10 – The manifestation of energy redirection 28:44 – According to Taoist philosophy, men have more creative energy and “do better” when they limit their number of ejaculations 30:50 – Men get a huge surge of testosterone roughly 6-7 days following their previous ejaculation 31:50 – Contrary to popular belief, men have their own unique hormonal cycle 32:50 – Men can have non-ejaculatory (dry) orgasms 33:48 – This actually gets easier with age 35:15 – Learning to separate ejaculation and orgasm, in many cases, significantly increases sexual satisfaction 36:25 – More often than not, we take for granted how incredible our biological functions are 36:48 – Jordan produces an unbelievable amount of content 37:15 – The content production process 39:55 – Jordan designed his content production process so that it is not location specific 40:03 – Airplanes are a great place to plug-in and produce content 41:50 – People can fail to realize where distractibility comes from; finding a way to shut out external stimuli can radically improve performance 42:15 – Jordan’s take on the naturalness of monogamy 43:20 – Is monogamy natural?—No. Is it recommended for healthy living?—Yes. 43:55 – Jordan’s Top 3 Tips to Be More Effective: 44:20 – Ditch the mindset of “I need a career before I need a relationship” 45:10 – If 100% of your calendar is business focused, repurpose at least 10% for your relationship 46:50 – Create a shared Google Doc for you and your partner; a relationship bucket-list 48:05 – JordanGrayConsulting.com
7 Key Points:
Many male entrepreneurs suffer from sexual dysfunction and struggle to maintain healthy relationships. Redirect energy for increased productivity inside and outside of the bedroom. Studies show men benefit from a surge of testosterone when they go 6-7 days without an ejaculation. Men have their own unique hormonal cycle. Learning to separate ejaculation from orgasm not only gets easier with age; it is very challenging for males under the age of 25. Block out external stimuli – both visual and auditory – to maximize productivity. Monogamy is not natural but it is nevertheless an advantageous practice for humans.
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