Podcast #133 - With Author Neil Strauss



In Episode #133 Ari speaks with Neil Strauss, author of Ari’s favorite book, Emergency. During their extensive conversation, Ari and Neil talk about everything from fatherhood and survival to writing and productivity.

Special Announcements:

Less Doing in Barcelona

Watch Ari bring the lessons of Less Doing to Barcelona, Spain for the 2015 European Growth Summit. Ari will be joined by fellow masters of entrepreneurship Steve Martin, Director of Influence at Work in the UK, and Verne Harnish, founder and CEO of Gazelles.

American Dream U

On March 13th and 14th, watch Ari Meisel bring his expertise to the stage in a setting unlike any other: Fort Benning, Georgia home of the United States Army’s Airborne and Ranger schools. Ari will be joining a collection of legendary business leaders and exciting entrepreneurs to help demonstrate the right way to start a business.

Less Doing Live Event

The Less Doing LIVE Event in NYC is less than six months away! The best minds in business and productivity are joining Ari in his hometown of New York City to share their tips, strategies and secrets for success. Visit LessDoingLive.com to learn more about this fantastic opportunity running from May 1st – 3rd.

Mastermind Talks

Looking for an opportunity to see Ari speak live somewhere on the west coast?—Look no further! On April 29th and 30th, Ari will be featured at theMastermind Talks event in Napa, California. To learn more about this opportunity to watch Ari “Optimize, Outsource and Automate” in wine country, click here.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

  • 26:09 – Introduction of Neil Strauss
  • 28:14 – The “system” is fragile; don’t rely upon it…Take your life into your own hands
  • 28:50 – Crohn’s disease and how Neil’s book helped him
  • 31:35 – On Point Tactical
  • 31:45 – We don’t live in the wilderness anymore, urban survival is the future of survival skill
  • 35:00 – Ari defines the source of his motivation
    • 36:00 – Getting yourself out of your own way can actually be the best medicine for your life
  • 37:43 – Neil asks Ari to explain what is wrong with being out of control
  • 39:37 – Neil defines his writing style and process
  • 42:20 – Researching and writing about two different things (like Emergency and The Game) can make both products stronger
  • 45:27 – The moment of staring death in the face
    • 46:05 – When people die, the two things they think about most are friends and family
  • 46:45 – A lot of people are so overwhelmed, they can’t even figure out what it is they want
    • 47:35 – Work addition is a fascinating concept and frequently responsible for people feeling overwhelmed
  • 51:00 – Learning how to be a father is a skill Neil doesn’t currently have that he would like to learn
    • 51:45 – The learning of a father is never complete
  • 52:45 – Neil’s deepest motivation these days is to rediscover how to shed some of the excess baggage from his lifetime
  • 55:05 – Neil’s Top 3 Tips for Being More Effective:
    • 55:26 – Download the program Freedom
    • 57:52 – The Weekly Dinner Party
    • 60:15 – We only have a certain about of decision-making power within a given day, so try and automate as many decisions as possible
  • 62:50 – NNTR: No Need to Respond
  • 63:30 – Real Hard Outs; the more specific the better
  • 65:15 – NeilStrauss.com

7 Key Points:

  1. The “system” is fragile and vulnerable to collapse; be ready to take your life into your hands at a moment’s notice.
  2. Mastering urban survival is probably far more valuable than mastering wilderness survival.
  3. Learn how to get out of your own way and watch your stress start to disappear.
  4. Friends and family; for most of us, there will never be anything more important than those two things.
  5. The education of a father (or mother) is never complete.
  6. Automate as much of your life as possible.
  7. Not everything (emails, phone calls, etc.) merits a response so become a master of NNTR.

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